Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

What’s Conchu?

Conchu is an app for getting dates without having to match or chat first, thus reducing the time and effort it normally takes you to get a date online (or “time-to-date”, as we like to call it). Read the details here.

The registration process is a bit longer than other dating apps, why?

To use Conchu other users must be able to view your profile and date, and decide whether or not they’d like to go out with you. 

This means that –in addition to your profile pictures– you need to tell people about yourself so they can decide, and this takes a bit longer than with other dating apps you might use. 

For example, if you’re inviting someone to a restaurant, it’s helpful to know if they have any food restrictions (as might be the case with vegans or vegetarians), or if they dislike smoking areas. 

The more Conchu users know about your tastes and preferences, or the type of date you are looking for, the better they can decide if they’d like to meet you. On the flipside, if you’re posting dates or asking out 1-on-1, knowing more about the users who catch your eye helps make sure you and your date have a great time.

When do I start chatting with the person I’ll go on a date with?

When the date is accepted, you will be able to see each other’s email and phone number so you can talk.

Who do I see in the app?

You only see people who live in your city –you can change it– and are sexually compatible with. You can also see Conchu’s ambassadors and team regardless of your city.

Now, if you know their nick or username you can find them by tapping “search people” and typing the username. This is useful to know what your friends are doing. 

Remember users can block you if they decide to. If this happens, you won’t be able to see them.

What sexual and gender options can I find in Conchu?

At Conchu we accept diversity as far as technology allows. Specifically, Conchu users can choose from three sexual preference options: straight, gay or bi. 

Additionally, users must identify their gender (male or female). It’s not possible to implement an app that handles gender fluid options.

What is a public date?

A public date is a date posted by any Conchu user. Public dates include type of place, who pays, date style (spending level), exact location, date and time. 

The difference with private dates is that in public dates any user (with compatible preferences) can post dates and ask out other users. The user who posted the date then chooses the applicant they like best.

It’s important to note that nobody, except the person who posted a date, can see the users who “apply” to their date.

What is a private or 1-on-1 date ?

It’s similar to a public date, but it is sent to only one person in private (from the person’s profile press “Invite to private date”). The date features are the same.

What is a counter-date?

A counter-date is a way for you to change the details of a private date you were invited to. 

Let’s say you’re interested in going out with the person who asked you out, but you don’t agree to pay 50/50 or can’t go on the day they scheduled.

Sending them a counter-date lets you change this, but the user who initially invited you has to  accept the changes or send another counter-date until you reach an agreement, or one of you rejects the invitation.

Can I post a date, or invite someone privately, and not pay for the date?

Absolutely, this option is available in every date created in Conchu. You have 3 options:

  1. Whoever asks out pays
  2. Bill is split 50/50
  3. The person who receives the invitation pays

These options are valid for public and private dates, and are defined when the date is created in Conchu.  

It is important to know that the person who posts a date does not necessarily pay for it. In other words, you could post a date and say the person who accepts the date pays. 

What’s important here is to choose the option that makes you and your date feel more comfortable.

What happens when dates are accepted?

Once you accept or are “chosen” for a date both of you will see each other’s email and phone so that you can talk. 

It’s important to know only emails are validated, not phone numbers.

How can I be invisible in the app so that no one can find me, but I still apply for dates or ask out privately?

It’s easy. You can choose “Private profile” and activate it in your personal menu (the bottom right icon), in the “Your Conchu” section.

How much does it cost to uHow much does it cost to use Conchu?

For now all Conchu features are free and you will not be charged unless you explicitly agree to pay via Google or Apple (depending on your smartphone) in the future. 

At the moment (29-Dec-2019) all new users can access premium benefits for one month, but this period could be extended again at no cost or cancelled without notice.

Who We Are

The people behind Conchu are:

@tandelaf is Conchu’s intellectual creator. Because of work reasons (even if it sounds unbelievable) he had to test and try, using himself as subject, most dating apps. After little time he realized something was off (read The Story). @tandelaf is single, holds an IT Engineering degree and is also a Master in Marketing and Business Strategy. He moves around a lot but currently he lives in Santiago, Chile and he’s an entrepreneur and non-fiction writer. He lived in Los Angeles, California and Miami, Florida for a little over three years. Before starting Conchu he was a corporate slave in major Telco and most of the time he worked in business positions, but he was always thinking and developing his technological ideas is his spare time. Before Conchu he created, coded and launched 8 websites, 4 of which were moderately successful and 2 of them were sold.

@felipe is also an IT Engineer, but he devoted himself to hard engineering (coding in this case) which is what most engineers do. He has worked with complex code and dominates many backend and frontend technologies. He has been a developer for large corporate projects and Conchu is his first massive app. Felipe loves his dogs and his bike, and always has an interesting opinion on most controversial topics.

@fernando is @tandelaf’s first cousin and holds a Business degree. He is also single and he’s Vicente’s father. He controls and manages legal and financial details for Conchu LLC and Infomágica in Chile and will be in charge of Conchu for Latin America and part of the USA.

@pichon is @tandelaf’s childhood friend and he created Conchu’s heart logo in 3D and is also responsible for graphic GUI design and positioning different elements within the app. He is a talented Architect, technology and photography advocate and lives with his girlfriend in Santiago, Chile.

@renzo is friends with @tandelaf and @pichon for a while now. He was cooperative and helpful from the very beggining and believed in the project early on. After launch he joined the team as CMO in charge of marketing, publicity and PR. @renzo has had more experience with dating apps than anyone on the team. He is single, loves his dog named “Chuleto” and loves reading.

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Conchu’s Story.

What is Conchu?

The Story

Like any story worth telling, Conchu begins with a head-splitting, soaking-in-a-hot-tub-at-10-am-on-a-Sunday hangover. Here is graphic testimony of said hangover:

@tandelaf, @ilan y @elchef

This was the moment when, in the midst of an irrational cognitive process, the idea of Conchu came to me.

I researched dating apps some months prior, when my publisher commissioned a new book. The target? Latin American men in their 40s once again in the singles market.

You can read the introduction here.

Up to that point, I thought dating apps were another option for relating to the opposite sex. I had to study them in detail, even though I used two and felt the experience was unpleasant.

It’s ironic that I had my own dating site in 2005: a Spanish clone of the then-known HotorNot.com. Nothing new.

I called it PonmeNota.com (no longer online) and I had about 4,500 registered users in Chile alone.

A few people contacted me to tell me they had a good time thanks to the site, and some even got married. I never thought that 14 years later life would take me to Conchu.

I started wondering how users could know exactly who would date them.

What if there was a mechanism to “apply” to go out with someone? Sounds crazy, I know.

But how?

Then it hit me: expanded profiles. But not to the degree of apps and sites to find stable partners (whose level of refinement is extreme). However, it wasn’t enough.

I needed to add something and the hangover in that hot tub cleared my mind.

What was missing was the “date” element. And more than that: a clearly defined date.

So I visualized the project as a public dating marketplace, in which people can post dates when and where they want.

Then I went one step further: they can choose who pays for the date (i.e., it doesn’t matter if the user posts a date, they can still propose the other party pays) and the level of spending (economic, moderate or V.I.P.).

Finally, the person who posts the date can choose from users who apply to the date.

I started the mobile project in March, I came up with the idea of private dates or 1-to-1s and counter-dates.

When you’re coming up with a name for an app you can’t just choose the one you like. That’s why even the most famous apps and sites have stupid or meaningless names.

It needs to be short and there can’t be another app with the same name. Hopefully the .com domain is available and ideally there aren’t any companies with the same name.

The name can’t be registered in your country of operations (in our case the United States) either.

I spent days looking but couldn’t find a name that made sense to me and met all the requirements.

But one day in March, in a restaurant with my family, I looked at my sister Consuelo, who we nicknamed “Conchu”. Right away I searched the databases. Everything was available, which is nothing short of a miracle.

La verdadera Conchu

I soaked the idea and basic concepts and made the first functional web app.

Little by little Conchu took shape and what was once only an idea became the center of my activities.

Here are some photos of the initial web app and the wireframe design of what would become the mobile app…

Shortly after I decided to go all-in with Conchu and knew that a website would not be enough.

I analyzed the option of making the Android and iOS (iPhone) apps myself. I soon realized technology had left me behind.

It was more convenient to pay a colleague with up-to-date coding skills. While programming is not my forte, I’m pretty decent on the web.

I created a job offer document, set up the company in LinkedIn and published the position. Compensation was on par with the market.

I wasn’t surprised that no one who applied for the LinkedIn ad bothered to read the job offer. Even nurses and graphic designers did.

In short: no one with the qualifications that I had described as excluding.

I wasn’t surprised no one who applied for the LinkedIn ad bothered to read the job offer. Even nurses and graphic designers did.

In short: no one had the excluding qualifications I needed.

I took another route and found a Facebook group of Chilean developers. This group posts job offers and I put my ad there. (actually my brother’s friend did it because I had to be a member and they didn’t accept me)

On a side note, my brother (@ministro in Conchu) told me that, according to his friend, several people criticized the ad. They even insulted the technologies I needed candidates to be proficient in. This wasn’t surprising either. Many of my colleagues are very brave behind a keyboard.

Four days later I received an application in my e-mail. I read his CV and, at least on paper, he looked like someone capable of doing the job.

That’s how I met @felipe on Friday, March 22, 2019.

It was strange to settle for the only applicant, but the future would prove there was nothing to regret. Quite the contrary: I am convinced I could not have had better luck.

On Monday, March 25 we started work. I told him a little about the project and we started testing the cloud server. This is the equipment where Conchu’s data and images are stored and processed). Right away I felt comfortable working with @felipe. After three hours of work we talked about life for a long time, shared our stormy biographies and wrapped the first day.

It’s hard to tell this story without telling mine. What followed to get to today was 8 months of very hard work. From 6 pm to about 23:30 pm. Sometimes @felipe and/or I worked until dawn.

He had another full-time job and I ran my other businesses. So we also worked Sundays and holidays (Saturday was always free).

Pressure during development was enormous, at least for me.

I was investing 70% of my time in directing the project and supporting it with some programming tasks. Money-wise the investment wasn’t peanuts either. I paid @felipe’s fees, infrastructure costs and services used by the application out of my pocket.

Other costs included legal coordination with lawyers and accountants, trademark registrations in the U.S. and Chile, and a considerable sum in advance payments for advertising commitments in Chile, my country of origin. I intended to run ROI tests locally before launching globally.

The pressure was so high I gave into excesses of various kinds. A few examples: a few drinks in the middle of the weekday and costly celebrations with @felipe every time we achieved an important milestone. This could happen any day at any time we achieved things we thought we couldn’t do. In fact, Conchu brought out (and I hope it continues to) the best and worst in me.

Bizarre events also took place. We were contacted by supposed investors and agents interested in participating financially in the project.

I must mention that two of them were men who didn’t have a digital identity. This means if you Google or look them up on social networks there is absolutely nothing about them, as if someone had deleted their profiles.

I also don’t know how they found out about the project or how they got my phone number. When they called me the ID was blocked.

I never received an e-mail. It was all over the phone (with the exception of one executive from startups.com). I agreed to meet with two: one in the United States and one in Colombia.

The latter flew me to Bogota –business class– to a very good hotel and gave me a glamorous surprise birthday celebration –the kind you leave your cell phone at the door.

Both, however, were what we entrepreneurs call sharks, which means that they wanted a large part (at least 70%) of the profits and stake in the company, which at that time was already Conchu LLC in the United States.

After this it became clear I had to launch Conchu as soon as possible or run the risk of being copied. I was absolutely certain that Conchu had real potential.

Finally we had Conchu’s Android and iPhone apps working as an MPV (minimum viable product). We were ready to launch Chile in mid-October. And then Chile exploded in a social crisis with economic and political repercussions in almost every dimension.

This made Conchu non-viable in the context of things. I felt awful and decided to wait another week for things to calm down. But things never calmed down, at least until today, November 30.

I assumed all the money invested in influencers, local TV celebs and other expenses for Chile could go waste. The emotional and financial impact was tremendous.

As looting and protests raged on, some of my customers and people who owe me money stopped paying.

So at the end of October I recomposed myself after a short but very necessary trip to the north of Peru and decided that the test had to be in another country.

This meant I needed to improve the app in large part because we had to include everything necessary for Conchu to operate in any city in the world and in multiple languages, which took us almost a month to develop.

While we waited for Apple’s approval for iPhone I had the legitimate idea to try Conchu with a beta-tester, a lovely lady I know and care very much for.

That’s how Conchu’s first real date took place in Santiago de Chile, on December 5 at 22:00 at Moloko bar in Tobalaba street.

I should note @naty did not accept the first date and sent me a counter-date proposing 50/50 bill split.

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What is Conchu?

Who we are.

What is Conchu?

“It’s never too late to have a happy childhood” – Ben Furman.

Conchu is the only dating app that is about dates. It sounds strange, but if you stop and analize what you do on other apps you will realize that basically after you match with someone you must invest a lot of awkward time chatting and, if you are lucky, more time in setting up a date or a way to meet.

Within Conchu there are no matches, and the is no chat either. With Conchu you can agree on a date in minutes and chat only after you have checked his/her extended and detailed profile and the specifics for the date. I must note that you can chat after a date has been agreed.

On a popular but regular dating app a girl may be wondering about details about her match, like his height, what he does for a living, diet, tattoos and other details and if they both seem acceptable to one another after talking awkwardly about this they must chat awkwardly yet again to set up a date or meet. It has been like that for a long time, but it doesn’t have to be.

So Conchu arrives to solve the problem and waste of time. You can agree on a date without matching or chatting in minutes (we have seen under a minute, too). But how? Because each member’s profile showcases what people mostly wonder about and waste time asking each other on dating apps and, most importantly, the date is pre-defined. Not only it’s defined, but it’s super clear. It’s so clear that the following information is available about the date: place type (restaurant, café, bar, …), spending style (Econo, Moderate, V.I.P), who pays (you pay, the other person pays or 50/50) and the exact place and address of the date. Obviously the date and time, too.

Basically there are 3 ways to go on a date within Conchu: The first is looking for listed dates and “requesting” them. The member who posted it publicly will choose between all who requested it privately. The second way is posting your own date, and is similar to the first. The third way is to send someone you like a direct 1-on-1 date invitation with all the parameters described in the previous paragraphs.

You can even list or invite someone and request that they pay for the date’s expenses. Also, if you invite someone on a private date they can “counter-date” you, which means something like “Well, I like you and I would go out but I’d like to change something”. You can change the time, day, who pays, spending style and/or any variable except the place

Conchu us all that and more and we would like to invite you to try it for free. Click below…

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Who are we?

Conchu’s Story

¿Qué es Conchu?

“Nunca es tarde para tener una infancia feliz” – Ben Furman.

Conchu es la única app de dating que es realmente de citas. Suena extraño, pero si uno se detiene y analiza las demás apps se dará cuenta, generalmente por cansancio, que básicamente se produce un match si es que tienes suerte, y de un grupo grande de matches podría obtenerse una cita real con una gran inversión de tiempo.

En Conchu no hay match, tampoco hay chat. En Conchu se cierra muy rápido una cita, lo que suena muy atrevido en un principio, pero no tanto si miramos los detalles… y “el diablo está en los detalles”.

Supongamos que en la app de citas más popular una hipotética chica heterosexual se pregunta si el chico con quien está chateando (su match) es alto o bajo, o qué nivel de educación tiene y varias otras dudas como qué come, si fuma y otros atributos y, si ambos logran dilucidar algunas de estas inquietudes sutilmente mediante chat y se interesan en reunirse en una cita, finalmente tendrán dudas acerca de la misma, como quién la pagaría, cuándo sería, cuál sería el lugar y el nivel de gasto en el que él y/o ella estarían dispuestos a incurrir. Así ha sido por mucho tiempo, pero no tiene por qué seguirlo siendo…

Llega Conchu. Puedes salir sin hacer un match, incluso sin chatear en la aplicación. Pero puedes chatear si quieres una vez que aceptaste la cita. Cuando aceptas una cita, o te aceptan una cita donde tú propusiste a ambas partes se les liberan los datos del otro. ¿Pero cómo? Porque nos encargamos de que el perfil de cada usuario muestre, aparte de las fotos y un texto libre, la respuesta a la mayoría de las preguntas que se hacen en los chats de las apps tradicionales y, más importante, la cita está definida con anterioridad. No sólo está definida, sino que está súper definida. Está tan definida que, para ser exactos, se hacen explícitos los siguientes atributos: Tipo de lugar (restaurant, bar, café, cine y más), quién paga (puede pagar quien publica la cita, pago a medias o se puede solicitar que pague el postulante… lo último dará que hablar), nivel de gasto (económica, moderada o V.I.P), fecha, hora y el lugar exacto con su dirección.

Hay básicamente 3 formas de salir con alguien en Conchu: La primera, puedes buscar una cita que alguien haya publicado y postular a ésta. La persona que la publicó podrá elegir a quien más le guste entre los postulantes. Segunda, puedes publicar tu propia cita y elegir de entre los postulantes a quien más te guste, habiendo tú mismo/a definido quién paga, el lugar y todo lo demás; y tercero, invitar a cualquier usuario (o ser invitado/a) en una cita privada de las mismas características. Esto último no está a vista de nadie excepto ustedes dos, y la persona invitada puede responder con una “contracita” que es básicamente el equivalente a responder “sí, saldría contigo pero pagas tú y no puedo a esa hora sino a esta otra”.

Conchu es eso y mucho más, pero te invitamos a probarla y a decidir por ti mismo/a. Click abajo…

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Las personas detrás de Conchu.

La historia de Conchu (hasta ahora).